Advises for Christmas meals when family relationships are not good
Psychologists believe are favorable dates "to teach children the importance of family relationships".
The specialist in clinical psychology, Eladio Rosique advises prepare in advance for Christmas meals when family relationships are not good.
"We could say that, regardless of religious belief, Christmas is the celebration of family relationships and friendships," Rosique explained to Europa Press, "we usually think that holidays are hard and difficult for people who miss a family absent, but are also difficult when relations are not good and may even be conflicting. " First, it recommended to prepare in advance to try to turn meetings into "a constructive opportunity" because "when we took bad with someone usually have a thought that argues permanently reasons to feel aggrieved upset or angry with that person."
This is what life has been called "load of reasons," however, stressed, "rarely tried to decide what is the best way out of that situation." If we argue that the relationship is bad because the other person has a negative attitude towards us "we're not aware that we are losing control of the situation," he stressed, "we situate ourselves as passive, as if we had nothing to decide He is someone else who will decide whether better or worse relationship. " However, argues Rosique, "can also carry me positive reasons and decide in advance what gestures will do about that person to try to change the complexion of the situation."
I'm not so aware of what the other person but what I will do, in fact, "that's all I can really control and it depends on me." "Very pleased with a family gathering where I put my part to make the relationship work comes out, when I was part of the conflict one comes out of that meeting and moody with a sense of having to justify my reaction," he adds. Secondly, it is a perfect place to approach the person with whom we have a problem making a positive statement of intentions now. In his view, must take into account that it is a time when we have people around you is entertained and this can be a good cover letter. "It makes it difficult to refuse someone is offering you a present. It is not about giving away expensive things, but illusion to think you can make that person to try to make a present with personal content," he told Europa Press.
Third, we must lay the foundation for future dialogue, pointed out the specialist, "it is not to do as if nothing had happened or to resolve any differences they may have, but to create conditions for future negotiations" . Generate a positive momentum so this holiday season "should not try to go into depth of the problems we have been able to separate but to generate positive momentum." Later we will talk about how to resolve the differences.
And if the person you do not bring me especially it is not my blood family but my in-laws, encouraged to consider the family of my partner as an act of love. "There are people I chose to relate, but are loved for my partner and, for this reason, and worth the effort," he stresses. As he highlighted, "dates are especially conducive to teach children the importance of family relationships, to strengthen ties, to accept differences, to witness reconciliation". "The problems are always the way of improvement but we must work within us for it," asking yourself "what I think I do to improve this situation."
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