Strategies To Simplify Your Life
We live with the priorities upside down because they define what is important and how we will get it.
Think:
How many pieces of clothing have unused? How long you invest planning
what to wear pants or looking for that impossible to find in the closet
packed? How many hours you invest in cleaning and maintenance of the
house where you just get off work because very late? Of all the objects
around you, what you really need?
The questions are valid because
many live surrounded by an excess of things. To meet possessiveness we
can easily fall into an unsatisfactory routine that keeps us from what,
at bottom, we consider more important. This is the approach of those who
defend the philosophy of simplifying life to minimize material
possessions and increasing experiences.
The reason for this
concern may have different explanations. The most obvious: the country
is bankrupt. You can not do anything but reduce costs if we lost our job
or know that the same danger.
Also they proliferate
environmental awareness movements that lead us to think about the need
to take measures to reduce the consumption of items that eventually end
up in the trash. And some people simply no longer want to live in the
career of maintaining a large house, a late model car and full closet.
Reducing consumption is a way to achieve peace.
"It's
a reaction to what happens to social and economic level. People are
trying to find a balance. They realize that if they do not take charge
of your life no one will, "said Victor Lleras, Jr., author of Under the
spell, publicist and personal transformation coach.
So, there
are those who decide, by necessity or conviction, to live a life less
dependent on material things. One is the entrepreneur Graham Hill, who
in March last year told readers of the New York Times how he went from
having a house of 3,600 square feet to another 420.
Although her
case is unique, because it managed to amass a considerable fortune at an
early age and can afford to give up a mansion while traveling around
the world, Hill says about their relationship with things not feel
different from the rest.
"Somehow, material things ended up
ruining my life, or much of it; consuming things he finished consuming
me, "he said in his letter. In short, Hill managed to have practically
everything he wanted but after a while concluded that "the objects tend
to shift the emotional needs that are supposed to meet."
Something
similar to the above by Hill's what leads many people to consider a
change in their lives to be lighter. Lleras describes it as "the
emptiness and sadness" of encountering the reality that the truly
important things have little space in their agendas.
This occurs
when, according Lleras, live with the priorities upside down because we
do not define what is important and how we will get it. When these
priorities are unmet emotional charge builds up unbearable. And those
emotions are coupled with past events that drag.
In fact, the coach indicates that the first step to making a change has to do with having more or fewer objects.
"The
most important thing is to let the weight of the mental burdens. Most
people have a difficult life for things that happened in the past. Many
complications are self-imposed "details.
Part of that emotional
distress also causes the weight of the messages coming from all over to
invite us to consume and have or achieve a certain status. Even all the
technology that makes life supposedly we can have the effect of
overwhelm.
"It is assumed that the cell simplifies our work but
we are now connected to the office while we are at dinner. We work with
us at all times, "says Enoch Misael coach, counselor and professional
coach.
Both interviewees agree that the shift to a more balanced
life starts with being clear about what you want. And this is no single
model, as each person chooses his.
Enoch and Lleras recommend
starting to make a short list of priorities. Those are the things we
want to address first. Then, you have to list the basic needs, for
example, home or education of children. The third step is to establish a
plan to decide how to meet the needs in the order described.
"One
thing I constantly see is that while we all learn differently, many
people react to visual learning. It is therefore important to make a
written plan. Seeing it is key, because otherwise the ideas are left to
the head, like a maze without solution, "said Lleras, who is also a
lecturer.
Most of time and energy we use it to what we identify
as most important. This is not to react impulsively and suddenly abandon
the responsibilities we have right now. One must understand that some
changes may take longer than others, it is important to start acting,
where possible, to reach the goal, says Enoch.
The coach also
invited to keep track of the process the awareness of what we do have,
as part of living a fuller life is to assess that. Furthermore, we
believe this prevents artificial needs.
Requires willpower and
responsibility to create the habit of compulsively avoid buying or say
yes to whatever commitment appears. The key, insists Lleras, is in three
steps: identify priorities, establish a plan to meet them and learn to
delegate, as they often refuse to accept the valuable collaboration of
third parties to expedite the goals.
When it is possible to
delegate, at work or home, we have more time to engage in tasks that
have significant consequences. We avoid staying in the "little things"
that do not provide satisfaction but suffocate.
Some strategies
- Make a list of the five most important things in your life.
- Examine what are you doing to feel satisfied with these priorities.
- Make a plan with initiatives you can take to live according to that which is essential for you.
- Learn to delegate and do it whenever possible.
-
Examine your belongings and determines what you can do without. Do the
same when you decide to buy something. Ask yourself if you really need
and if you buy it you closer or away from your important goals
(holidays, trips, savings).
- Learn to say no to commitments and obligations will bring more stress than satisfaction.
- Looking disconnect the phone and the computer from time to time, to truly enjoy your contact with others.
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